WEIGHT LOSS Be Positive
Take two daughters. Give one lots of encouragement. Praise her on her schoolwork, praise her looks and forecast a successful future for her. To the other, say only negative things. Criticize her work, criticize her looks and forecast nothing but failure.
Question: What effect will your
words have on these two girls?
The first daughter will probably grow up confident, positive and afraid of nothing. The second will probably grow up to be very unsure of herself. She will have doubts about her looks, her abilities and her future. Probable result? The first daughter will find life easy while the second will struggle. All because one was praised, while the other was criticized.
You see, when we hear something often enough, we believe it. If itís nice, we feel good. If itís nasty, we feel bad. It may be our parents who say it, it may be our teachers or our friends at school. But it doesnít matter who says it. We still react in the same way. If itís nice, we feel good. If itís nasty, we feel bad.
It happens in adulthood, as well. For example, if our mother-in-law keeps telling us weíre not good enough, we end up believing her. If our husband keeps saying heís more important than we are, we end up believing him. If people keep passing negative comments about us, we end up believing them.
See how powerful words are! They can change us completely. They can fill us full of confidence or full of doubt. And they are particularly important when it comes to losing weight.
You see, when weíre fat, we often have a low opinion of ourselves. We donít like the way we look and we often feel very self-conscious, especially if someone passes a comment about our figure. Result? We tell ourselves that we are not as good as other people. We tell ourselves that we are a failure. And after weíve said it enough times, we end up believing it. We end up believing we are a failure.
So when we try to lose weight, we are beaten before we start. We are so convinced that weíre a failure that we never put our heart into it. We might give up chocolate and biscuits for a couple of weeks but we donít take it seriously. And we donít believe for a moment that weíre really going to get slim. Why not? Because that little negative voice in our head is saying: Youíre a failure! Youíre fat! Youíre never going to lose weight!
Well girls, itís time to change! Instead of telling yourself all this negative rubbish, I want you to say something positive, for a change. For example, say this to yourself:
"I want to be slim. So I am going to start a sensible diet and learn some new eating habits. And if I have a bad day, Iíll stop dieting until the problem passes and then Iíll start again. And nothing is going to stop me, because I am strong enough to succeed."
Say this paragraph out loud to yourself. Go on, donít be embarrassed, say it! And go on saying it every day! Say it when you get up, say it at lunchtime and say it in the evening. If necessary, cut it out and put it somewhere you can see it.
You see, words change us. And it doesnít matter who says them. As long as we hear them often enough, we end up believing them. So start saying these positive words to yourself and see the difference it makes! Youíll find dieting ten times easier.
And donít imagine for one moment that itís not going to work. This technique is used every day all over the world to persuade people to change their habits. You may have heard of it. Itís called advertising!
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